Black and Blue Love

So we all've probably heard the whatnot about Chris Brown and Rihanna beating each other silly... Okay more him beating her silly and then going to jail and whining about it all over the media.
Rihanna was obviously still jonesin over some Chris Brown lovestick after bloody incident, but the whole fricking world decided to get up in her business and lecture her over the fact that she is "a role model to young girls" and yada yada yada horseshit.

So now she's still writing pathetic love ballads and creating music videos featuring creepy Chris Brown-alikes.  She's obviously still craving those delicious fists of fury, so why not let her get back with the creepo and quit bitching about it.

Same goes for poor Demi Moore and her lovemuffin, Ashton Kutcher.  He cheated but she was still diggin the man-meat.  Then everyone had a fit and she had to dump his scummy, cheating buns or be branded a crazy, old, washed up push-over.

Screw pride and principals.
If you like it black, blue, and bloody then go with it. 

Let's face it; some people are masochists through and through.  Nothing's gonna change that.

Look at all the women that date Charlie Sheen.  You think they're not aching for a rough time?  They most absolutely are.  If it leaves a scar, all the better.

You ever heard the term "hurts so good?"  Well sometimes it does.  And, in my oh-so-humble opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

No, I am not condoning abusive relationships or cheating.  But I am saying, if you still love the person then screw what the whole world thinks.  If you want to be roughed around, more power to ya.

Magazine Scams and the Laws that Will Set You Free

okay, so my oh-so-smart boyfriend recenlty fell for an over-the-phone magazine selling scam.  you can only imagine my disdain.  *sigh*
I did some research, through the yelling and lecturing, and stumbled across a colorado state law involving magazine companies.

Magazine Sales

C.R.S. 6-6-103(2) covers unsolicited magazine sales and subscriptions. The statute provides that “the sender of a magazine or other periodical shall cancel a subscription if any invoice is returned by the recipient marked ‘cancel’. Cancellation shall also occur when the recipient gives written notice of cancellation to the sender at the sender's address or at the address of the subscription department printed in the periodical, or, if no such department is listed, at the general business address of the periodical.” Within sixty days after notice of cancellation for prepaid subscriptions, the sender shall refund to the recipient any amount paid for the subscription less the amount owed by the recipient for any periodicals, together with the postage thereon, if postage has been charged separately, received before the effective date of the notice of cancellation.

basically, you can get out of a magazine subscription at any time, irregardless of what the company is telling you... and they most certainly will tell you that you can't get out of it.
I'm not sure if this law is the same in every state, but if you have gotten yourself wrapped up in a fradulent magazine scam, you should do some research on your state's attorney general's website.  And while your at it, file a complaint with your attorney general and the ftc.  If we all work together, surely we can rid the world of these evil companies.

Forgiving the Unforgivable

The question everyone wants to know:

Is there EVER an instance in which it is okay to forgive your scummy, cheating partner?

The answer?

Absolutely.

Can cheaters turn over a new leaf?

Everybody is capable of change.  Absolutely everybody.  Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

However, not everyone is willing to change.  This is where the real work comes into play here.  You have to decide whether or not your partner is honestly willing to commit after their act of infidelity.  Sometimes they are, and sometimes they aren't.

You should be the person who knows them best, so it shouldn't be that hard to decide whether or not they're changeable; and it should be easy to determine whether or not they're lying when they say they're willing to change for you... and if you're NOT the pereson who know them best, then you probably shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place.

Unfortunately, sometimes, even after you have decided that they are capable of change, it's impossible for you to forgive.  Cheating is one of the hardest acts to forgive.  It's a breech of trust.  After working hard to build up that trust, it can be impossible to get back.

But remember, it make to a big person to forgive, but it takes an idiotic one to forget; so if you do decide to take them back, remember what they put you through...

And give them a little hell (or a lot) to make up for it.

The Arguments

Relationships are great... but not always.  Sometimes they're just okay; and sometimes they're downright horrible. 

But honestly, would you want a relationship that was PERFECT all of the time?  If your relationship was just super fabulous 100% of the time, wouldn't that get boring after awhile?

Sometimes you want to vent and sometimes you just want someone to pick a fight with.  Sometimes their annoying habits get under your skin and sometimes you get tired of them not picking up after themselves.  Sometimes you catch them checking out a girl's ass and sometimes he breaks curfew.  Sometimes she spends too much on a set of gaudy fake nails and sometimes she wants to watch soaps all day.

Sometimes you're just going to annoy the piss out of each other; and if you want to make it work, you're going to have to learn to deal with that.  Plain and simple.

Relationships nowadays are like a priceless ming vase nestled on the edge of a 50 foot ledge on a windy day: more fragile than we'd hope and constantly on the verge of destruction.

Understanding that is the first step to making a relationship work.

So it all comes down to this one fact: you're going to argue.  If you're not arguing, then there's an underlying issue there.  You're probably not talking things out like you should.  If something bothers you about your significant other, then TELL them.  It's better to let them know now than let it fester.  10 years down the line, you'll thank yourself, because you'll get along a hell of a lot better than the couples who didn't talk things out.

NOBODY gets along perfectly all of the time.  Some couples argue less than others, but ALL couples do argue... even if they're not willing to admit it; and some aren't, but that's their problem, not yours.

Smile and enjoy the arguments.  They're good for you as a couple.