Good Things Come to Those Who've Been Cheated On, Bad Things Come to Those Who Cheat

It has come to my attention that my low-down, dirty-rotten, scumbag, cheater of an ex-boyfriend is having a pretty rough go.

Since we'd gotten together, roughly three years ago, I'd gotten him $1000.00 out of debt, and a few thousand out of the hole. I took him out of his parents house and away from the drugs and alcohol. He was completely self-sufficient and had a pretty decent job. And to top it all off, I'd helped him get into college.

Now, seven months after the break-up, he's over $20,000 in debt. Moving back in with his parents and he's balls deep in drugs and alcohol. He has no job and no prospects. He also dropped out of college and has no direction in life...

The sad thing is, I'm doing and feeling better than I ever did when I was with him.

He was the one that cheated and fucked everything up... but I still can't help but feel bad for the stupid twat. I guess that's what separates the good guys from the bad guys.

I guess the moral of the story is, cheaters never prosper... Well sometimes they do, but is it really worth the risk?

Forgiving the Unforgivable

The question everyone wants to know:

Is there EVER an instance in which it is okay to forgive your scummy, cheating partner?

The answer?

Absolutely.

Can cheaters turn over a new leaf?

Everybody is capable of change.  Absolutely everybody.  Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

However, not everyone is willing to change.  This is where the real work comes into play here.  You have to decide whether or not your partner is honestly willing to commit after their act of infidelity.  Sometimes they are, and sometimes they aren't.

You should be the person who knows them best, so it shouldn't be that hard to decide whether or not they're changeable; and it should be easy to determine whether or not they're lying when they say they're willing to change for you... and if you're NOT the pereson who know them best, then you probably shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place.

Unfortunately, sometimes, even after you have decided that they are capable of change, it's impossible for you to forgive.  Cheating is one of the hardest acts to forgive.  It's a breech of trust.  After working hard to build up that trust, it can be impossible to get back.

But remember, it make to a big person to forgive, but it takes an idiotic one to forget; so if you do decide to take them back, remember what they put you through...

And give them a little hell (or a lot) to make up for it.