Forgiving the Unforgivable

The question everyone wants to know:

Is there EVER an instance in which it is okay to forgive your scummy, cheating partner?

The answer?

Absolutely.

Can cheaters turn over a new leaf?

Everybody is capable of change.  Absolutely everybody.  Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

However, not everyone is willing to change.  This is where the real work comes into play here.  You have to decide whether or not your partner is honestly willing to commit after their act of infidelity.  Sometimes they are, and sometimes they aren't.

You should be the person who knows them best, so it shouldn't be that hard to decide whether or not they're changeable; and it should be easy to determine whether or not they're lying when they say they're willing to change for you... and if you're NOT the pereson who know them best, then you probably shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place.

Unfortunately, sometimes, even after you have decided that they are capable of change, it's impossible for you to forgive.  Cheating is one of the hardest acts to forgive.  It's a breech of trust.  After working hard to build up that trust, it can be impossible to get back.

But remember, it make to a big person to forgive, but it takes an idiotic one to forget; so if you do decide to take them back, remember what they put you through...

And give them a little hell (or a lot) to make up for it.